Love and Affection (Pressure)

So I read somewhere recently that the secret to keeping a woman is pretty simple.....

Basically the article stated that women need three things to stay happy in a relationship: Appreciation, Attention and Affection. Sounds simple but its true. Women need to feel apprecitated, we want to be with some one who is attentive to our wants, needs and feelings. Most importantly, we need emotional and physical closeness and affection. Pressure hits on the subject in this beautiful song.....



Ladies when you met that next guy that's struggling to figure out exactly what it is that you want him to give you. Play him this song.....

When you find the one out there that truly wants to give you love and affection, I hope you open up yourself to him and accept him as a blessing......

Those of you out there who already found that one, I hope you return the love and affection let your man know he is special to you.......

My Thoughts on......President Obama in Ghana

All this coverage about President Obama in Ghana had me thinking about this beautiful song by Peter Tosh.......



Beautiful song indeed. As long as you live in this world you are an African.......
I have a feeling President Obama would appreciate this song. We all need to get the message out there that despite our differences were are all one people.

I can just imagine the excitement of the people of Ghana. It is truly a wonderful thing to be a part of history as the first African country to be visited by the first Black US President.

I hope President Obama visits Jamaica sometime in the future...... I can definitely promise that Jamaica would throw a party of epic proportions to celebrate his visit. Jamaicans LOVE President Obama and they are very passionate people! You would not believe just how many reggae songs there about President Obama. I'll be sure to post a few sometime in the future......

Life Lessons.....A friend in need is a friend to be avoided.

"A friend in need is a friend to be avoided."
-Lord Samuel

Today one of my co-workers found this quote online. When I heard the quote, my first thought was no one should avoid a friend in need. However, after thinking about this quote for a while I have to say its true........

Sometimes as friends the best thing we can do is leave our friends alone and let them learn from the greatest teacher, life itself. Your friend in need should be avoided when he/she:

• Only calls you when they are in need. This is a big one. Light bulb! If you only get called when things are bad you are not even a friend at all.
• Was nowhere to be found last time you were in need. If they didn't have your back last time, chances are next time time you are in need they wont be there for you either.
• Only seems to be happy when you are not, (they tend to be the ones that always have something negative to say, are never supportive of you and seem to spend all their time bringing you down so they can feel better about themselves).
• Refuses to see what you and everyone else sees about the current love of their live. Sometimes love really is blind and the best thing you can do is stand by and wait for the destructive relationship to self explodes.
• Needs to borrow some cash again, just hold over until payday despite all your good advice on how to budget and spend their own money wiser.

I'm telling you this might seem harsh but there comes a time in life when some friends need to be avoided. Furthermore, if someone in your life fits more than one of the above criteria you should just get rid of them. With friendships it should always be quality over quantity. As Confucius once said:

“Have no friends not equal to yourself.”- Confucius

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Please share all other instances that friends in need should be avoided. Lets share the word and help each other break bad friendships.......

Uplifting Reggae ...... You Can Get It If You really want (Jimmy Cliff)

Lately I've been feeling very apprehensive about what the future holds for me. Basically I'm about to quit my job and pack up and move to a different state. I have no definite plans at this moment other than this will be my last summer in New York. I will definitely miss living in New York but I'm ready to experience to joys of living somewhere where its warm year round. However, the possibility of being unemployed for an extended period of time scares me to death....

I have been listening to a lot of uplifting reggae songs lately to keep my spirits high and remain optimistic. This one of my favorite uplifting reggae songs.



You Can Get It If You really want by Jimmy Cliff always makes me feel better after listening to it. It is a simple song with simple lyrics but the message is very strong.I hope everyone who listens to this song remembers it whenever they are going through a difficult time cause.......YOU CAN GET IT IF YOU REALLY WANT.........lol.......whatever "it" is for you.

Soladirty for Females Iran

All the stories of courageous Iraqi females who have been standing up for their rights and defending democracy in their country these pass few days made me think of this clip. The movie is called Persepolis and in this clip the heroine Marjane decides to come out of her depression and finally take control of her life. The song says the rest..........

We all want to be like Marjane. Strong, confident, ready to take on the world and stand up for what we believe in. My heart goes out to all the female demonstrators in Iran and all over the world who have the courage to stand up for Equal Rights and Justice.

August Town - (Duane Stephenson)

My last video post, Cottage in Negril, had me reminiscing about all the good times I had growing up in Jamaica. This had me thinking about the fact that there are two different versions of my beautiful country Jamaica. There is the beach and the tourist areas that most people see and hear about(shown in previous video)and then there are the Inner City areas. Violent crimes, gangs and poverty are a daily reality in these places.However, Jamaicans are known for our tenacity and strength and courage to overcome difficult odds. This is a beautiful song by Duane Stephenson which illustrates just that.It is a song about faith and how people can change their lives for the better.Here is a verse of the song:

A word from the Wise don't try to make life on your own
Remember that Jah Jah’s by your side,
For I was a soul who was lost And my life was in dismay,
For among evil forces in which I played yeah
Guns and ammunition were my chosen way of life,
With God's fearing people I chose to strive,
For all of the lives that are taken, they can never be replaced,
But still Jah Jah chose to remember my face

Cottage In Negril - Duane Stephenson

This song is beautiful. It reminds me of my teenage years growing up in Negril. Young and in love.....those were the sweet old days. I am a bit young to be nostalgic about the good old days but music, reggae music especially has that ability to instantly take you back to moments in your life. This one takes me back to when I felt invincible, when I saw my life as full of possibilities and when I felt that love and relationships were so simple......





Check Duane Stephenson out on youtube....... His latest album is called August own. It is one of those rare ones where every song is actually very good. One that you should definitely purchase.Album of hits!Check him out on myspace. Add Him as a friend to see when he will be performing in your area.
http://www.myspace.com/duanestephenson